National Singles Week

The week of September 18 to 24 marks National Singles Week. It was started in the 1980s by the Ohio Buckeye Singles Council to celebrate singles.  Now it’s expanded to include singles and those who are unmarried (but do not identify as single.)

According to census stats, there are 95.7 million Americans and 12.3 million Canadians who are unmarried and single over the age of 15. Match.com claims to have 15 million members worldwide with 60,000 new members joining daily. 

Right now Match.com is offering a free 3-day trial.  If you really want to try out a site, free trials are great as they let you use most if not all of the features.  Contact some potential dates.  Who knows, maybe you’ll find a match.

P.S.  If you decide not to join the site, just make sure you cancel before the trial ends (to avoid charges to your credit card).  In other words, read the fine print.

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Sources:

For more on National Singles Week and U.S. Census numbers visit:
www.unmarriedamerica.org/usaweek/census-release.htm

More about Match and National Singles Week

Canadian Census numbers for 2001
(#24 on page)

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A quote from the Love Doctor

The late Leo Buscaglia was known as the Love Doctor.

Don’t hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.

~ Leo Buscaglia

We can either choose to feel emotions that bring us further away from or towards our goals.  If we dream of being in a happy, fulfilling relationship – it’s time to let go of the emotions (anger, hurt or pain) that are holding us back.

Can you believe he actually taught a class on love?  How cool is that?!  The first personal development book I was ever introduced to was one written by Leo called “Love.”   I then read “Bus 9 to Paradise,” “Living, Loving, Learning”, and “Way of the Bull.”  He often said “Way of the Bull” was his favourite book.  It was filled with stories of his experiences and the people he met while travelling through Asia.

When I saw him speak on TV he was so passionate about us loving each other.  It really seemed to be his life’s mission.

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Least Effective Pick Up Lines Used by Men

2500 women were surveyed by Survey America, Inc. and asked one question.  A compilation of the least effective pick up lines used by men was created.  Read the List of PIck Up Lines

For some more pick up lines visit as shared by and commented upon by Match.com women who were on the receiving end:  http://www.match.com/magazine/article2.aspx?articleid=3604

It’s hard to believe a guy would actually think any of these lines would work.

Share the worst pick up line you’ve ever been fed (by a man or a woman) or that you’ve used.  Just click the comments link below.

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A funny dating story…. now

I classify this story as a funny dating story as it’s just so surreal to me it’s laughable.  And yes – it really did happen to me.  I call it….

You’ve got to be kidding…

For the most part, the men I met online were nice, honest guys just looking to meet Ms. Right.   Then Paul (not his real name) came along.  Paul and I connected a few times by email and once by phone.  We decided on a day, time, and location to meet in person. 

I arrived at the designated time at the designated time and waited.  And waited….   And waited….  After 30 minutes I left.  I got home and left him a message to make sure he was ok.  I figured he may have forgotten or who knows what could have happened.   

No reply. 

I had a sneaking suspicion that he had driven by our designated meeting spot and kept driving.  It was just a gut feeling.    So I just drop it figuring he’s a jerk. 

About 3 months later I get a call.  It’s Paul.  He’s back east on vacation and he’s bored.   And then he utters something like, “I’m really horny.  Do you want to have phone sex with me?”

I said, “Are you kidding me?  First of all, I’m pretty sure you stood me up and drove right by the day we were supposed to meet.”  He said nothing.

He then proceeded to try to get me to have phone sex with him.  Finally I just told him I was hanging up and did.

Ahhh…. the sometimes wacky world of online dating. 

Do you have a dating story to share?  Feel free to email me or leave a comment.

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What Do Single Men Really Want?

The results of a Match.com survey of 1000 single men appeared in the August 2005 issue of Marie Claire.  98% of the men, aged 26 to 36, were looking for a long-term relationship.

Ladies, think again about sleeping with a man on the first date if you think he may be the one, as 56% of the men surveyed wouldn’t consider you the marrying kind. 

More interesting dating stats from Match.com.  "10 Dating Stats You Should Know" answers questions such as:

– Are there enough single people out there?

– Are there more single men than women?

– Should I post a photo with my profile?

Read the article.

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Adult Dating Photos

Most of the photos on adult dating sites tend to be of anatomical parts…only.  I was browsing one of the adult dating forums to see what people were talking about.  In one a man asked the women if they liked the photos that were of male genitalia only. 

Of the 24 responses, 22 said they don’t. 

Most women prefer photos that are more tasteful and erotic in nature.  A full-body shot with a strategically placed towel or one that was shot from behind.  Women also prefer a naked upper body shot or just a face shot.

Men – if you want the ladies to click on your profile, you may need to change your photo.

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Dance Like Nobody is Watching

My brother is getting married today.   Believe it or not, how he met his partner is related to the Mark Twain quote I commented on yesterday.  Specifically the ‘dance like nobody is watching’ part.  My brother was dancing on a table when his partner spotted him.  If he hadn’t been, who knows if they would have ever met!  If there are lots of people dancing on tables I’ll know they know the story!

In addition, you just never know who you might meet at a wedding.  One of my friends met her husband-to-be at a wedding.  She just didn’t know it at the time.

You just never know when or where you’re going to meet the person who may end up being your life partner or maybe just a great friend. 

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“Love like you’ve never been hurt”

I’ve always loved this quote. It’s certainly a way of being to live up to and try to embody.

"Dance like nobody’s watching; love like you’ve never been hurt. Sing like nobody’s listening; live like it’s heaven on earth."

~  Mark Twain

It’s really about giving it your all and not caring or worrying about what anybody thinks.  Who cares if you’re tone deaf if you love to sing.   Sing!  There’s an Italian fellow who sings opera while he walks around my neighbourhood. 

Life has highs and lows and in-betweens.  If you want to experience love, you have to risk being hurt.  But so does the other person, which we sometimes forget when we’re focused on ourselves.

Bryon Katie’s books – “Loving What Is” and “I Need Your Love – Is That True?” – focus on separating a situation from the stories and meaning we attach to the situation.  If you’ve been hurt before, the exercises in her books may be helpful. 

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Need help spotting a match?

Anmol Madan, a MTI student, has created software that can tell you whether the person you’re speaking to, on the phone or in-person, is a potential match.  If used on a cell phone the software will tell you if the person is a jerk – hence the nickname ‘jerk-o-meter.’  The software has also been used to predict, with 95% accuracy, whether speed-daters will exchange numbers.

While it may be a helpful tool if used in conjunction with your own intuition and judgement, do you really want some software to tell you who to date?  What if a software patch comes out after you say ‘no’ to a ‘jerk’ only to find out he or she isn’t really a jerk after all?!

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Dating Multiple People: How Many is Too Many?

When you really look at it, online dating is a numbers game.   You send out 20 smiles or winks and a percentage send a smile or wink back.  Let’s say 5 wink back to let you know they’re interested. 

Then you email the 5 who smiled back at you.  Maybe 3 respond within the next couple days.  So now you’re corresponding with three potential dates as well as anybody who has taken the initiative and contacted you.  For simplicity, you may be juggling 5 people. 

If you’re not careful, you’ll start getting details mixed up.  Didn’t Bob say he was going to the baseball game?  Or was it Dave?  So you send a mail message to Bob asking how the baseball game was.  He writes back and says you must be thinking of someone else…  and he may even kid you about it.  Hmm… it must have been Dave.

It’s so easy to forgot who said what, who’s interested in what etc.  There is a solution… keep a pad of paper near the computer and the phone.  That way you can keep track of details.  This is especially helpful if the dating site has instant message capability as you may not have time to sort through your previous email or instant message correspondence (if it’s even still available for viewing)!

You’ll also learn how many people you can correspond with at a time.  You do have a life to live after all.  Even if you have no room on your ‘dating card’ you can still respond to people who send you messages and simply say you’re really busy and would love to connect in the future… 

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