In a poll in early July 2005 Lavalife.com® asked it’s members: “What do you appreciate most in a Lavalife profile?”
The #1 answer overall, with 49%, was a photo. In second was ‘well-written/humor’ (34%) and in third was ‘specific info on who they’re seeking’ (15%).
What I found revealing was the difference between how the men and women answered the question. 58% of men choose photo as their number one answer with ‘well-written’ in second with 25%. 43% of women choose ‘well-written’ profile as their 1st choice with photo a close second with 42% of votes.
If you do choose to post a photo, make sure it’s recent (see Mistake #1 in Dating Mistakes) and that the photo is of you. (Did I really need to say that?!) I met a man (via Lavalife incidentally) who told me a woman he was conversing with had sent him a picture. When they decided to meet she kept hedging until she finally told him the truth – she had sent him a picture of her friend not herself.
I thought the whole point of dating online was to meet a potential friend, date or mate. Just be who you are. Why would you want to be anyone else? It takes a lot of energy trying to be who you think everyone wants you to be.
Note: The poll and results are property of Lavalife.com ®